Black Women Have Had It Just As Bad If Not Worse Than Our Men
I and my 4 siblings were raised by our single mother our father had NO hand in our upbringing. We were raised in the hood and had no more than our neighbors, yet we are ALL college educated with nothing less than master degrees. My mother went back to school at 47 and now holds a doctorate as does my brother. Those who know better do better. She knew better. It is evident that she raised us based on what SHE knew and did the best she knew how to do like every single parent on this planet wants. Black women have had it just as bad if not worse than our men. Why is it so hard to grasp that a lot of poor black mothers honestly don’t know any better and the damage caused to them is revisited on their children? Remember you do better when you know better.
If we REALLY want, to be honest, most of us know personally a black woman who has been abused in some way by a black man, likely the ones that claim to love us. We take the abuse and we move forward because we HAVE to. We have the children. We all aren’t great mothers. We all don’t have mothers like mine that instilled in us the value of self-love, self-knowledge, and education. Those children often thrive as we did. Those mothers that only know abuse and neglect often times instill those things in their children.
Why is it so easy for us as a people to understand the pain and injustices visited upon black men who are broken by the system but cannot find that same understanding for black women who have been broken by that same system? We share the pain and injustices of the system and we also endure the pain and injustices inflicted by our men.
Black mothers generally take FULL responsibility for the choices we made in men that walked away from their children without a second glance. We take responsibility by keeping and raising our babies to the best of our abilities. Sometimes what we have inside is enough to raise them well and sometimes it isn’t. We will be stuck in a perpetual cycle of pain and injustice and poverty and death if we don’t recognize what we do to each other individually and collectively. The biggest threat to black men is white men. The biggest threat to black women…. BLACK MEN.
Nuwla contributor: Celia K. Dale
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Celia K. Dale is a mother, a daughter, a sister, and loyal friend. She is the creator of BlackBook-JustUs.com a social networking site for our people to learn, engage, and uplift other people across the diaspora. Celia believes that ALL black lives matter… even the ones whose lifestyles others may disagree with.